Inspired by Deep Waters (DW) playing a family game of, Fact or Crap - we found this game, brand new at a Lifeline store for $3, so though the name is a little edgy thought it would be a fun way of learning bits of trivia that would make us all laugh and think together as a family.
The rules are simple, one person reads out a statement from the printed cards and everyone has to guess if it's fact or crap. Something like, "When soldiers join the French Foreign Legion their passports are taken away", fact or crap? Everyone is given 2 tokens and if you guess right you get another 2 tokens, if you guess wrong, you lose 2 tokens. The winner has the most tokens at the end of the game.
OBJECT OF THE GAME
Fact is often stranger than fiction. In this fast-paced trivia game, your aim is to dazzle the opposition with how much you know about the world we live in. From the day to day to the truly bizarre, you will be asked the one question that really counts— is it Fact or Crap?
It's a really fun game and we have had some hilarious laughs and also some great debates playing it. A lot of family bonding time and fun for only $3! So here we are first night of winter school holidays playing and DW the academic of the family trying to psych us all out by the way he reads the question using inflection in his voice or choice of question or something, so he coined it, 'reverse, reverse psychology'! Quite clever and innovative I thought. He managed to succeed for a few rounds, until EQ read his cues and outwitted the reverse, reverse psychology and won.
Got me thinking about parenting styles and how we often use reverse psychology with our children to gently persuade them to stick with something or give up something. The old adage of planting seeds in their minds so they think they have come to the idea themselves. Or acting all non fussed about something when inside you are really churning and wanting them to change their attitude or behaviour but cannot 'force' them too.
Parenting is so complicated sometimes isn't it! Sometimes the burden of responsibility weighs heavy on me as a solo Mum. My children do spend 50% of their time with their Dad so it's not a total solo effort, but when they are with me it's often in the on-the-spot decisions that need to be made that create the most angst. With big decisions, I do consult their Dad, he is a wonderful father to our children. Am so grateful for his input into their lives and feel for those who are flying totally solo as parents as surely it is a huge job at hand. Hopefully if you are in this situation you have extended family or friends that can be a support network to help carry & debrief when the burden gets too heavy.
I have read parenting books that describe parenting styles such as passive agressive, diplomatic, autocratic etc and wondered which category I fit into - I hope I am diplomatic, though my children would definitely feel like it's a dictatorship at times! EQ will often defuse me by asking, "stressful day at work, Mum?" when I err on too intense or strict about something. His approach to life is so chilled and relaxed that it often abates my sometimes serious approach. I love him for it as he makes me laugh at situations, myself and see the lighter or even the pragmatic side of life.
Isn't it wonderful and challenging that our children are mirrors to our souls, our own attitudes and behaviours? If only they could take the strengths from each parent and not the weaknesses they would be perfect, right! Not! Perhaps we could use some reverse, reverse psychology to enhance our parenting although it's not about winning or outwitting, it's about moulding, shaping, nurturing, caring and cherishing. I cherish holiday moments, and creating happy memories, hope you do too.
By the way, it's a fact that the French Foreign Legion soldiers have their passports taken away!
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